Sunday Weekly: Feeling seen and heard
Why it's important to feel our emotions, lean into the discomfort, and not waste time. Plus, inspiring quote, affirmation, book rec, and more!
It's interesting how often we feel unseen and unheard by those around us.
Someone doesn't make eye contact.
Or they try to finish our sentence without truly knowing what we would say.
We can tally up these offenses without missing a beat.
But what about when it comes to seeing and hearing ourselves?
The most difficult and confusing thing in the world because we are disconnected from our emotions.
As a society, we’ve learned to distract ourselves anytime we feel by using our smartphones, watching TV, or eating processed foods rather than experiencing it fully.
That's the equivalent of avoiding eye contact with our soul.
If we choose, we can spend a lifetime ignoring what we're feeling and pretending it's not there.
It doesn't have to be this way.
We need to feel our emotions
It's ok to feel emotion.
To let it swell, crest, and run its course.
Blocking pain and worry also blocks inspiration and joy.
Turning off our ability to process one, turns it off for all.
If we distract ourselves from pain, we could distract our whole life away and not even realize it.
With one life to live, do we want to look back and regret ignoring ourselves?
Or realize we would've liked to learn new skills like piano, painting, or dance but didn't because the thought felt too uncomfortable?
Lean into the discomfort
When we distract ourselves from discomfort, we lose our freedom to choose.
Avoidance defaults to a decision of passive inaction.
That’s not truly owning what we want.
Would we rather not learn a new instrument or language because we choose to do so out of intention and awareness?
Or because every time the thought made us uncomfortable, we picked up our phone and ignored our desire, and now it’s too late?
No matter how long we avoid what we're feeling, the emotion never disappears until we face it head-on.
This forced me to spiral a little during my dopamine detox and have a come-to-Jesus moment.
It surprised me how scared I was to admit what I wanted!
Probably because I'd have to change.
The ego HATES change with a passion.
But the thing is, even if you admit what you want, you can still choose not to go after it.
What’s important is allowing ourselves to see and hear what's there.
If the effort required to get "the thing" doesn't feel right, that's okay.
Let it go and do something else.
That's the beauty of choice.
Francesca
Did this spark anything for you today? Tell us in the comments. I love hearing from you, and you never know who else needs what you have to say!
Good Quote
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Good Thinking
Good Action
Practice listening to and feeling your feelings. We often mask our emotions with distractions. Yet we need them to use our internal GPS. Trust yourself. It's ok to feel. If you need help, try a 48-hour dopamine detox or journal on the prompt above.
Good Question
Move up the ladder to higher vibrations by writing at the top of a blank page:
What do I want?
and see what flows from your pen. No judgment or editing.
Good Book
If you want to raise your energy and change your beliefs from limiting to infinite, stop everything you're doing and buy Infinite Possibilities by Mike Dooley.
This is the first audiobook I have listened to where, after listening, my energy vibrates at a level of strength and expansion. Not only do people around me feel it, but moments have been manifesting left and right with total ease.
Manifesting and creating a life you love starts first with our beliefs. We can only see what's possible and receive that which we believe. This book helps you understand the mechanics and absolute truths of the law of attraction and inspires you like nothing else.
This is a book I'll also get in print so I can re-read some of the powerful ideas.
Buy Infinite Possibilities here.
Sparks of Joy
Blooming beauty: This flower in a vase on our fireplace bloomed like a goddess (see pic above). Something about the way the stem and the flower reach towards the sun: nature is beyond inspiring!
Regulating dopamine: Since making this commitment, I’ve been cooking at home a lot more, and it’s felt really good for my soul.
Deliberate practice: I started leveling up my writing, which feels good. I bought a keyboard to learn piano again and started creating a TGS database where all of my content will be housed for you to access. I can't wait to share!
Baby years: I often look at my gorgeous daughter and feel the pain of knowing she won’t be this little someday. I’m enjoying every second I can.
Extra Goodies
Good Read: Would you agree with this article that monetizing your hobbies is good?
Good Quote: Naval Ravikant on what money can't buy: "A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. These things cannot be bought — they must be earned."
Good Smoothie: Sipping this pineapple spinach smoothie all summer long!
Good Thought: A post on The Good Space Instagram about making space in your heart.
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