Feeling seen and heard
How it's difficult to lean into discomfort, why we need to feel our emotions fully, and reasons for embracing discomfort. Plus, a quote, prompt, and affirmation!
It's interesting how often we feel unseen and unheard by those around us.
Someone doesn't make eye contact.
Or they try to finish our sentence without truly knowing what we would say.
We can tally up these offenses without missing a beat.
But what about when it comes to seeing and hearing ourselves?
The most difficult and confusing thing in the world because we are disconnected from our emotions.
As a society, we’ve learned to distract ourselves anytime we feel by using our smartphones, watching TV, or eating processed foods rather than experiencing it fully.
That's the equivalent of avoiding eye contact with our soul.
If we choose, we can spend a lifetime ignoring what we're feeling and pretending it's not there.
It doesn't have to be this way.
We need to feel our emotions
It's ok to feel emotion.
To let it swell, crest, and run its course.
Blocking pain and worry also blocks inspiration and joy.
Turning off our ability to process one, turns it off for all.
If we distract ourselves from pain, we could distract our whole life away and not even realize it.
With one life to live, do we want to look back and regret ignoring ourselves?
Or realize we would've liked to learn new skills like piano, painting, or dance but didn't because the thought felt too uncomfortable?
Lean into the discomfort
When we distract ourselves from discomfort, we lose our freedom to choose.
Avoidance defaults to a decision of passive inaction.
That’s not truly owning what we want.
Would we rather not learn a new instrument or language because we choose to do so out of intention and awareness?
Or because every time the thought made us uncomfortable, we picked up our phone and ignored our desire, and now it’s too late?
No matter how long we avoid what we're feeling, the emotion never disappears until we face it head-on.
This forced me to spiral a little during my dopamine detox and have a come-to-Jesus moment.
It surprised me how scared I was to admit what I wanted!
Probably because I'd have to change.
The ego HATES change with a passion.
But the thing is, even if you admit what you want, you can still choose not to go after it.
What’s important is allowing ourselves to see and hear what's there.
If the effort required to get "the thing" doesn't feel right, that's okay.
Let it go and do something else.
That's the beauty of choice.
Francesca
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Good Quote
Good Question
Move up the ladder to higher vibrations by writing at the top of a blank page:
What do I want?
and see what flows from your pen. No judgment or editing.
Good Thinking
Good Action
Practice listening to and feeling your feelings. We often mask our emotions with distractions. Yet we need them to use our internal GPS. Trust yourself. It's ok to feel. If you need help, try a 48-hour dopamine detox or journal on the prompt above.
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